Helping Hand Grief Support

“Begin with the End in Mind” (quote by Steve Covey)

{something to do, someone to love, something to hope for}

01. Grief journal – do it faithfully.

02. Ability to forgive – learn what it means.

03. Deal with and let go of Anger issues.

04. Creating a Memory Bank.

05. Draw from that Memory Bank often.

06. Deal with your loneliness issues.

07. Deal with your guilt, blame, & shame issues.

08. Choose the positive memories to dwell on.

09. Work to resolve the negative issues.

10. Read a Psalm from Bible each day.

11. Find something to be thankful for {Feelings follow thinking}.

12. Give your sorrows to God in prayer.

13. Find a place to “empty your bucket” {cry}.

14. Get out of your way while healing.

15. Live “on purpose” Laughter is a tranquilizer {with no side effects}.

16. Sing when you don’t feel like it.

17. Get up when you don’t feel like it.

18. Do what you have been delaying for 15 min.

19. Love with insight. “Cope, just a letter away from hope.” Wandaism

20. Take the “High Road.”. Leads to better life.

21. Be real at all times.

22. Pass on the “bait.” It will “hook” you.

23. You are in “it”, going into “it”, or coming out of “it.”

24. Know your top 3 needs every day.

25. Be careful who you give your “last straw” to.

26. You’re first! (similar to placing the oxygen mask on you first during an airline emergency).

27. Choose thoughts carefully, no “stinking thinking”.

28. Do for yourself as much as you would do for others.

29. Find a friend you can do nothing with & enjoy it.

30. Be very careful with assumptions.

31. Reminder: a brief life is not a life without value.

32. “Understand you will never understand everything.”

33. We live in a “2-story” world. Our story & their story. {Listen} Wandaism 1-29-2010

“Do what you think will be comfortable for you. Remember, you can always choose to do things differently next time.” (see page 9 of the Resource Healing Guide by AFSP)

Please join us by giving thanks to our Lord, for He is good!

“Should you go first and I remain to walk the road alone, I’ll live in memory’s garden dear with happy days we’ve known. In spring I’ll watch for roses red when fades the lilac blue. And in early fall when brown leaves fall I’ll catch a glimpse of you. And should you go first I remain to finish with the scroll, no lengthening shadows shall creep in to make this life seem droll. We’ve known so much of happiness and we’ve had our cup of joy, But memory is one gift of God that death cannot destroy. Should you go first and I remain for battles to be fought, Each thing you’ve touched along the way will be a hallowed spot. Oh, I’ll see your face, I’ll hear your voice and though blindly I may grope, The memory of your helping hand will bore me on with hope. And finally and should you first and I remain, one thing I’d have you do, Walk slowly down that long lone path for soon I will follow you. And I want to know each step you take that I may walk the same. For someday … down that long lone path … you’ll hear me call your name.”

George Younce, 1930-2005 – A. K. Roswell’s poem, “Should You Go First,” from “Beyond the Sunset” on the Cathedral Quartet’s 25th Anniversary.

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An interview with Helping Hand Grief Support Founders’ George -n- Wanda.

Participating Location: Fellowship Alliance Chapel in Medford, NJ

Day of Healing for Bereavement After Suicide

In English, Spanish & French

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2011

Conference Starts: 9:00 a.m. EST

Survivors of suicide loss gather at hundreds of simultaneous healing conferences around the world every year on International Survivors of Suicide Day to connect with others who have survived the tragedy of suicide loss, and express and understand the powerful emotions they experience.

If find it difficult to attend in person, you can watch online and join in a live chat immediately following the program. AFSP: International Survivors of Suicide Day.

Featured survivors address the questions that so many newly bereaved survivors face: Why did this happen? How do I cope? Where can I find support? Experts on suicide share information on what we currently know about suicide and grief.

The 2011 program features Spanish and French subtitles plus closed-captioning in English.